Only Loving Sex
An audio space where shame and discomfort evaporate, leaving us room to re-imagine reality as a sex-positive utopia.
In this 8-part series, certified sexologist, Kassandra Mourikis, and somatic healer, Poppy Sloan, explore consent from every possible angle: from what to do if you’ve had your consent violated to calling out toxic behaviour.
The Only Loving Sex podcast is brought to you by Channel Void in partnership with The Society.
Trigger and content warning: this podcast will likely reference and discuss breaches of consent and boundary violations, as well as the associated trauma. If you, or someone you know, needs immediate support, Call 100-RESPECT a hotline specialised to help those dealing with sexual assault, domestic violence or family violence here in Australia.
Listen to episode #01: What is enthusiastic consent?
Poppy and Kass discuss approachable ways to communicate that you’re not feeling up to sex, and how to validate your intimate partner’s pleasure while respecting your own boundaries.
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Listen to episode #02: When is consent not consent?
Poppy and Kass discuss the relationship between structural oppression and consent, and explain why the freeze and fawn stress responses are common in sexual scenarios where we don’t feel safe.
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Listen to episode #03: What is coercive control?
Poppy and Kass do a deep dive into coercive control, demonstrating why the ‘no means no’ version of consent is so problematic and outdated.
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Listen to episode #04: Understanding rape culture
Poppy and Kass touch on what the concept of ‘rape culture’ means and why we, as a community, tend to ignore behaviours that we inherently know are harmful.
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Listen to episode #05: How to support survivors
As well as discussing how best to hold space for survivors of sexual trauma, Poppy and Kass break down the process of reporting perpetrators of sexual violence.
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Listen to episode #06: What to do if you’ve caused harm
Poppy and Kass talk about taking accountability if you’ve violated someone’s consent, and how to transform your behaviour to prevent future or ongoing harm.
Available on Spotify and iTunes.
Listen to episode #07: How to call out toxic behaviour
Poppy and Kass tear down the “victim” and “perpetrator” stereotypes, and discuss what it means to be a true ally, contributing to conversations to incite lasting change.
Available on Spotify and iTunes.
Listen to episode #08: What does a sex positive world look like?
Poppy and Kass introduce the concept of consent as a practice, and how to apply this knowledge to a create a healthy, pleasure-centred sex life.